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Thoughts of a middle aged man…..29 December 2013

What a peaceful afternoon I am having, Brian went to visit a friend and is now at one of my least favourite places IKEA. What don’t I like about IKEA, you cannot just walk in and get what you want and walk out, you have to walk all over the damned place before you reach the cashier, really annoying when you dislike shopping as much as I do. Brian has now realised it is much better if he just lets me stay home.

What have I been doing since he left, reading my book, watched a rerun of Charmed, and done a couple of loads of washing. Nothing stressful, just enjoying a simple day at home, much like I will for the remaining two weeks of my annual leave while Brian goes back to work tomorrow.

Yesterday we had a lovely day in Clayton Bay, lunch with two of our favourite ladies, Marg and Mary, then a quick visit with Jan and Harvey. We caught up on the latest gossip around town, Brian who is the font of gossip filled them in on a few things he knew via Facebook, and then we were off home.

I have to confess I am becoming a little fed up with eating Xmas leftovers, the salads are long gone but the meat, we have so much meat it is not funny, if only we had a dog. I have promised Brian tonight is the last night, we will bin the rest and get back to a nice cooked meal from tomorrow night. There is one small problem, Brian usually cooks as he gets home from work before me, but as I am on holidays I get the short straw……Bother!

Thoughts of a middle aged man…..24 December 2013

Christmas Eve at last. I had to make a quick trip for some last-minute salad vegetables and $69.20 later I am finished. The local supermarket was not as busy as I would have imagined, despite there being almost no available car parks. The number of people blocking the aisles with their shopping trolleys was ridiculous, tunnel vision all of them, completely unaware of their surroundings.

Xmas Day will be a quiet one for us, just Brian and I with his mother, a seafood lunch and then to Jo and Kate’s for tea. Boxing Day will be an entirely different affair, all the kids and their families, my idea of Xmas. I have always said I am not fussed about which day we all get together for Xmas, just as long as we do, that is my Xmas Day. Brian will be in his element as well, he usually hands out the presents and the chaos that ensues is priceless.

Tonight we are going to Wade and Gink’s for dinner, my ex-wife will also be there, once that would have presented a problem but we got over that years ago, it’s all good. I assume Gink will cook something superb as he usually does, my contribution will be a garden salad that I will throw together later.

Most of Xmas Day I will spend cooking the meat for Boxing Day, it is currently thawing all over my kitchen, and hard boiling eggs, potato for the potato salad, my list goes on. I would not have it any other way, Brian knows I will curse and swear all day but he will leave me to it, it is more harmonious for us both that way.

At the end of the day what really matters is that I will be with everyone I love, Brian, my children, their partners, and my grandchildren. I am blessed. Merry Xmas.

Thoughts of a middle aged man…..23 December 2013

Today was a day of very mixed emotions. This afternoon I went to see Dad for Xmas, when I arrived he was mopping his bathroom floor, a very unfamiliar sight. Dad has never done much for himself, he has certainly not done any housework, but now with my stepmother in an advanced stage of Alzheimer’s he has little choice. I had been worried that Dad was not looking after himself but he has surprised me, it is amazing what you can do when you have to, I felt strangely proud of him.

After a bit of a chat we went over to the nursing home to see my stepmother, it has only been a few weeks since my last visit but she has visibly aged, at least 5-10 years, she looks dreadful. I was pleasantly surprised when she called me by my name, that won’t happen for much longer so I will treasure each visit as if it were my last.

Joy wanders off quite regularly now, both mentally and physically. I was walking her to her room when she just decided to toddle off in the opposite direction and leave me standing there, she has also started seeing things that are not there, and making abstract comments about nothing in particular.

Dad has decorated her room as best he can for Xmas, he really has no idea but I found the attempt extremely emotional. He has made an effort to bring Xmas to the love of his life, and she does not even realise he has done it. I feel so sorry for him, he is very frail himself and he misses the woman he treasures terribly.

On the way home I got a call from a very old and dear friends husband to give me the sad news that her cancer has returned. This is someone I grew up with and although we do not see each other often I love her dearly. My dear friend, I hope you have the strength to fight this as you have done before. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Thoughts of a middle aged man…..17 November 2013

The search for our new home must now start in earnest as our landlord has dropped the bombshell that she is putting this house on the market. Although we are getting first offer on the house it is far too expensive for us first time around, and I do not really think she understands just how much work this place needs.

We saw a few houses today but they turned out to be real dumps. They did not look too bad on the internet but in the flesh so to speak, too depressing to contemplate. I cannot believe the Universe has put us through everything we have endured for us to finish up in a dump. I truly believe we will find the perfect home for us at a price we can afford, perhaps a little windfall might come our way who knows, but something will happen.

Feeling thoroughly depressed we stopped into Kane’s to say hello. I love the fact that even my older grandchildren still get excited when they see us, and at least once on every visit they come up for a cuddle or just stand next to us, even the boys will stop hop on our laps for a hug.

Last night we had a lovely meal with Wade and Gink, oysters as a starter, steak and salad, and then truffle Magnum ice creams. Just what every good diabetic needs, ice cream and chocolate.