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Marriage Equality

Its been a long time since I put finger to keyboard but I could not let this opportunity pass me by. For those of you who do not know the Australian Senate has passed the Marriage Equality Bill in Australia, I believe it goes before the House of Representatives this coming week. This has come about as a result of the money wasting census Australia has just held, I am sure the millions spent could have been better utilised elsewhere if only our federal politicians had the intestinal fortitude to make a decision that they already knew the majority of Australians supported.

A number of people have already asked whether Brian and I will get married once this bill becomes law, the short answer is No. Getting married will not change our relationship or our lives. We have shared the same Medicare card for at least fifteen years, we have joint private health cover, we declare our incomes on each other’s tax, that’s right the Federal government may not yet recognise us as a couple but the Taxation Department does. We have joint property, joint bank accounts, we are the executors and beneficiaries of our wills, and we are each other’s next of kin in all areas. Brian is the only one that can make the decision to switch off my life support, something I am sure he has dreamed of at least once. Why on earth would we want to get married, we already celebrate the anniversary of the date we met, why muddy that with a wedding.

Don’t get me wrong, I will be very happy to see this bill passed for those who do wish to get married, particularly for the young people like my son who still have their whole lives ahead of them. Everyone should have the opportunity to marry the person they love, and what a boon it will be for the economy.

While I am on my soap box I would also like to see all the “labels” removed from our day to day language, I do not like words such as homosexual, lesbian, poofter, fag, or gay. We are simply normal everyday people who just happen to fall in love with and choose to spend our lives with someone of the same gender, why should it have a label.

I am a good person, Brian is a good person, we do not intentionally hurt anyone. I love my children and my grandchildren with all my heart, I am very proud of all of them. All I really want in this life is to be happy, surrounded by those I love and that love me. Even more that that I want my children and my grandchildren to be happy. Vent over.

Same-Sex Marriage

Same sex marriage, what an emotive issue this is. It would seem that the majority of Australians are all for same sex marriage, let’s see what our politicians think this week when a private member’s bill is introduced.

I am all for same-sex marriage, not that it will make any difference to my relationship. Brian and I will never “tie the knot”, what’s the point, it will make no difference to our relationship at all. Brian and I have been on the same Medicare card for years, we are recognised as a couple by the ATO, and virtually everything we own  is in joint names. We have wills that state we are next of kin, when one goes the other gets everything, we are as “married” as any other de facto couple. Maybe if we were younger.

It is future generations that I am happy for, it should not matter who you love, it should only matter that you love someone and they love you, and you are willing to devote the rest of your lives to each other.

While I am about it I detest labels, I do not like the way that the word “gay” is used, once it simply meant jovial or happy, good-spirited, but now it has entirely different connotations . Why do we insist on labels, why do we have to change the meaning of the simplest of words, is it not enough that you just love someone.

Aussie! Aussie! Aussie! Oi! Oi! Oi!

Thoughts of a middle aged man…..22 September 2013

Today is the 25th birthday of my youngest son Wade. Wade and I have not always seen eye to eye, and sometimes he is a little bit out there for my liking, but he is true to himself and what he stands for, and for that I am very proud of him. He has shown more courage in his life than I have, particularly at such a young age. Son I love you very much and I know you have a wonderful life ahead of you. Just remember to pick me out a nice nursing home with your brothers.

Now for a bit of controversy, and we all know how I like controversy, so here goes. There has been much talk in the Australian media this week  about same-sex marriage, the talk has been going on for years but it appears that now someone is doing something about.

For non-Australians the Australian Capital Territory is a quasi state in Australia, hence the name Territory, and there is a bill going before their local parliament to legalise same-sex marriage. The ACT would then become the first state or territory within Australia to legalise this. Now I am all for marriage equality despite the fact that Brian and I would never get married, but that is our choice, and that is what it is all about, freedom of choice.

This got me to think about the many different state and federal laws in place here in Australia, not to mention all the red tape and the bureaucracy to keep things running. Population wise Australia is a fairly small country on the world stage, so why do we need all these different laws, surely the Federal government could draft laws for all Australians, why do things have to be different from state to state.

I know I am probably over simplifying a very broad issue here, but sometimes simple can be good, remember the KISS principle, “Keep It Simple Stupid”. I know some laws may require a certain amount of tweaking here and there, but overall it should be all laws for one and one for all laws. There would still be a place for State governments, albeit a very trimmed down version.

That’s my opinion.